Compassion

Love Starts with You

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Love Vitamin with Judith Costa

Love Starts with You with Judith Costa – Love Vitamins for Life

Our conversation with Judith Costa has been both enlightening and inspiring. Through her wisdom, we have learned that self-love is a profound journey that has the power to revolutionize our lives. By embracing self-love and making it a priority, we unlock the true essence of love and create a ripple effect that positively impacts every aspect of our existence So, let's nourish ourselves with the love vitamins of self-love and watch as our lives transform into something truly extraordinary. Remember, love is a decision we make every day, and it all starts with you. — If you enjoyed listening to this episode (or the podcast), please share your diagnosis with someone you love. Small doses over time is how you grow the love. The best gift you can give us is positive feedback and your observations. Follow us wherever you are listening and do us a favor by adding a Review on Apple Podcast. LoVita – Love Vitamins for Life is a community that believes love is a daily act and Love Vitamins are how we strengthen the love. Each individual brings a story, perspective and practice on how to learn, play, and grow in love. We share stories on how love shows up in your life in a digestible format. To learn more check out the links below 🔗 ⁠LoVita Blog⁠ for Frameworks, Love Doses and more Sign up for our monthly⁠ Newsletter⁠ for exclusive content We're also on Social media -⁠ Instagram⁠,⁠ Facebook⁠, TikTok Connect with our Guests Website: http://www.judithmcosta.com Instagram: judithcosta2 Facebook: judithmcostasoulmate TikTok: @judithmcosta LinkedIn: judithmcosta

Introduction

Welcome to another episode of LoVita – Love Vitamins for Life! In this episode, we dive deep into the concept of self-love with our special guest, Judith Costa.

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Judith Costa is an unconditional Love coach, Self-Love expert, seminar leader, writer, and speaker, with a Masters Degree in Analytical Psychology and Psychotherapy and an MBA. She is a certified consultant and teacher of the Akashic Records, a Reiki Master, a Past Life Regression Therapist, and a certified Happiness Trainer.

Judith works with groups and individuals to help them overcome their inner blocks to Love. She specializes in helping her clients have a better relationship with themselves, which transforms their lives, allowing them to create abundance, well-being, better relationships, and become happier.

Judith is the founder of Love Love & Love, an organization that aims to create a more loving world.

Understanding the Essence of Love

In our conversation with Judith Costa, she shares her profound insights into the essence of love. She describes love as a vital force that shapes our lives and teaches us valuable lessons about ourselves. From our interactions with others to the concept of soulmates, love is an integral part of our existence

The Journey of Self-Love

Judith’s journey in helping people find their soulmates led her to a profound realization – one of the main barriers to finding love is the lack of self-love. With this in mind, her focus shifted towards promoting self-love as the foundation for all other relationships.

Cultivating Self-Love

To truly love ourselves, Judith provides practical advice and techniques to cultivate self-love daily. She highlights the importance of mindfulness and observing ourselves without judgment. By being kind, patient, and understanding towards ourselves, we can extend these qualities to others.

Rewiring Negative Self-Talk

One of the significant aspects of self-love is our internal dialogue. Judith encourages us to become aware of our thoughts and self-talk patterns. By transforming our inner critic into a supportive cheerleader, we can revolutionize our relationship with ourselves and enhance our self-love journey.

Embracing Compassion and Action

Practicing self-love extends beyond self-pity or feeling sorry for ourselves. It involves taking compassionate action towards ourselves. Judith emphasizes the importance of making promises to ourselves with self-love as the driving force. We deserve our own love and by committing to ourselves, we can create positive change in our lives.

In the pursuit of love, we often look externally for its fulfillment. However, Judith reminds us that love begins within us. By knowing ourselves deeply, embracing our worthiness, and nurturing our own love, we become a source of love rather than seeking it from others. This shift in perspective transforms our relationships and choices, leading to a more fulfilling life.

Conclusion

Our conversation with Judith Costa has been both enlightening and inspiring. Through her wisdom, we have learned that self-love is a profound journey that has the power to revolutionize our lives. By embracing self-love and making it a priority, we unlock the true essence of love and create a ripple effect that positively impacts every aspect of our existence

So, let’s nourish ourselves with the love vitamins of self-love and watch as our lives transform into something truly extraordinary. Remember, love is a decision we make every day, and it all starts with you.

Tune in for more life-changing love vitamins and stay connected with Love, Love, and Love for further insights on the power of unconditional love in creating a more loving world.

To learn more about Judith Costa and her work, visit the links in the show notes below.

Keep cultivating self-love and watch as love blossoms in every corner of your life!

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They’re My Ass

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Whenever I get upset with my partner, I always come back to Victoria Rader’s strategy – and remember rather fondly that regardless of what happens – this person is my ass.

If you’re not familiar with the Ass Principle, it’s basically a mental reset tool that enables you to validate, resituate, forgive & love all in 30 seconds. When there’s a behavior or a pattern that is frustrating to you, do the below

  1. Validation – in your mind. Look at the person that you love and say, “What an ass.”
  2. Ownership – Say to yourself, “But he/she is my ass”. Own up to your relationship with them.
  3. Forgiveness – Say to yourself, “I choose to forgive them”. You neither excuse the behavior, nor punish it.
  4. Love – Time to say, “I choose to love them.”

After coping with my momentary meltdown and re-finding my zen it’s time to fortify the Relationship Love Vitamin by practicing Relationship Repair. All relationships encounter rough patches, and sometimes these conflicts feel all-consuming. They create distance in your relationship and dissonance in what you want versus the reality that you’re living. Relationship Repairing is about not taking our ability to resolve disagreements with our partner for granted, but being intentional in building back the trust that was broken when the conflict arose. 

Sometimes Relationship Repair looks like sitting across the table with your partner and asking them how they define a certain concepts like “responsibility” or “caring.” This is vital especially because it often feels like you already know how they define a concept, or that you share a common understanding – but when it comes down to the specifics, as individuals we tend to have nuances in how we show up — and this is when things tend to get spicy. 

My partner and I took this opportunity to have a conversation about how we define sympathy, empathy, and compassion. And as we discussed we realized that while we overlapped about 80% on how these terms and our behaviors, we had some major differences that led to misunderstandings in the heat of the moment.

Check out this amazing infographic by Susan David to inspire your conversation. I love how she broke down Sympathy, Empathy, and Compassion into action verbs like Distant, Shared & Connected/Action Oriented. My partner and I had a lengthy conversation on how Compassion shows up in our relationships and the role of “helping” each other when we are suffering.

Will this one conversation solve our problems? No. But it does provide a foundation for the next time one of us is suffering and we feel like the other person is not being compassionate towards our pain – we have a higher level of common ground that we can build from instead of starting at ground zero.