Creating a Shared Relationship Vision with your Partner using Deal Breaker Questions

Creating a Shared Relationship Vision with your Partner using Deal Breaker Questions Love Vitamins for Life

In this episode, we bring to you a quick and easy free at home date night idea called creating a Shared Relationship Vision. It doesn't matter if you're just starting your relationship or you've been together for several years, it's never too early or too late to sit down with your partner and talk about what you aspire from your relationship. This is why we came up with a list of deal breaker questions. By taking the time to go through these questions, you can create a Relationship Vision that you and your partner are willing to invest in. List of deal breaker questions: https://tinyurl.com/lovita1 Takeaways 1️⃣ We believe that a discussion around a Shared Relationship Vision should be a recurring exercise, perhaps even a Tradition. People and their priorities change over time. This exercise can keep partners in alignment. 2️⃣ Just because you and your partner share different perspectives doesn't mean that you are not on the same page. This activity is all about helping you understand your similarities and differences, and if and whether you want to invest your time in addressing those gaps and remember. Remember – It's okay to disagree. Our inspiration for the activity was from our previous conversations with Brendan Kumarasamy, a communication expert and Victoria Raider, a possibility coach on their take on the value of working towards a Relationship Visions. Links below 🔗 https://lovita.blog/2022/11/11/unleash-prosperity-in-your-relationship-with-victoria-rader-a-possibility-coach/ https://lovita.blog/2022/08/29/communicating-relationship-boundaries-with-brenden-kumarasamy/ LoVita – Love Vitamins for a healthier is a community by Partners for Partners. We share stories about how Partners are working intentionally toward building a healthier relationship. To learn more check out the links below 🔗 All below links in a single page – https://linktr.ee/lovitalovevitamins Website – https://lovita.blog Newsletter – https://mailchi.mp/81f58463e76b/subscribe Instagram – https://www.instagram.com/lovitalovevitamins Facebook – https://www.facebook.com/lovitalovevitamins

Shared Relationship Vision

Today, we are sharing a quick and easy free at home date night idea called creating a Shared Relationship Vision.

It doesn’t matter if you’re just starting your relationship or you’ve been together for several years, it’s never too early or too late to sit down with your partner and talk about what you aspire from your relationship. This is why we came up with a list of deal breaker questions. By taking the time to go through these questions, you can create a Relationship Vision that you and your partner are willing to invest in.

Intention

This concept of a shared relationship vision has come up again and again as we interviewed relationship coaches and experts for our podcast. In our conversation with Brendan Kumarasamy, a communication expert, he brought up the concept of a shared Relationship Vision as a way to get on the same page. When we talked with Victoria Raider, a possibility coach, she brought up the concept of establishing a Shared Relationship Vision as a way to either find your soulmate or save yourself years of misery. We thought let’s be explicit about this and practice it for ourselves.

Things you need

📝 A list of Deal Breaker Questions. (Some sample questions available on Framework Relationship Vision. You can a complete list for free that we used)
🤫 A private and quiet space to have a conversation with your partner

Rules

Take a few moments to look over the list of questions you gathered and collect your thoughts. Then go ahead and set the space and environment for the conversation. Remove any distractions like cell phones. If you have pets or kids make sure that they are entertained so you don’t get interrupted.

Feel free to break up the questions into parts or segments . So you can take breaks in between as well.

Our Discussion

Listen to the episode for our conversation around the below topics

  1. What do you consider cheating? In the context of a relationship
  2. Do you have my back no matter what?

Takeaways

1️⃣ We believe that a discussion around a Shared Relationship Vision should be a recurring exercise, perhaps even a Tradition. People and their priorities change over time. This exercise can keep partners in alignment.

2️⃣ Just because you and your partner share different perspectives doesn’t mean that you are not on the same page. This activity is all about helping you understand your similarities and differences, and if and whether you want to invest your time in addressing those gaps and remember. Remember – It’s okay to disagree.

Experiment with a few different Deal Breaker Questions that suite your relationship. Let us know what you think about the date night activity in the comments below and share your story.

Advancing and Expanding the day with your partner for a fun and quick date night idea to build healthy relationships

Advancing and Expanding the day with your partner for a fun and quick date night idea Love Vitamins for Life

In this episode, we talk about a fun and gamified way to share among partners more about each other's day. Here's how the activity works 🙋‍♀️ One of the partner is the Storyteller. Your role is to start by sharing more about how you spent the day. When you hear EXPAND, stay on the event you just mentioned and give details. Continue giving details until you hear ADVANCE, after which you move on to the next event of the day. Continue for 2 minutes. 🧟‍♀️ The other partner is the Listener. With the power to use only two keywords "Advance" and "Expand". Say EXPAND to have the Storyteller share more details about what they just mentioned. Say ADVANCE to move ahead to the next event of the day. 🔀 Switch roles. Play daily or when needed. Increase time as you see fit. Takeaways Find a time-bound way to share about your day with your partner while sharing the responsibility of storytelling Find opportunities in your day to savor the small moments that can easily slip away Give your partner the control to be curious and learn more about your day – encouraging them to use the keyword Expand to dive into more details Our inspiration for the activity was from an Improv exercise called Advance and Expand, used to explore environments in more detail. LoVita – Love Vitamins for a healthier is a community by Partners for Partners. We share stories about how Partners are working intentionally toward building a healthier relationship. To learn more check out the links below 🔗 All below links in a single page  – https://linktr.ee/lovitalovevitamins Website – https://lovita.blog Newsletter – https://mailchi.mp/81f58463e76b/subscribe Instagram – https://www.instagram.com/lovitalovevitamins Facebook – https://www.facebook.com/lovitalovevitamins

Have you ever been in a situation when you ask your partner about their day and all you get in response is “it’s been the same” or “fine”. How about if we tell you that you can gamify this mundane question of “how was your day honey” to make it more fun. It’s an activity we call “Advancing and Expanding” and all it takes to play is 5 minutes with your partner and their attention.

When given a time constraint, an Advancer is someone who likes to rush through the events to get to the end of their story whereas an Expander is someone who is comfortable to dwell in the details and having an incomplete story. Find out whether you are an Advancer, Expander or somewhere in between?

How does this help? It helps build a more meaningful bond between partners and a healthier, every single day. We’ll explain more but let’s first play.

Activity

A fun and gamified way to share among partners more about each other’s day. Here’s how the activity works

🙋‍♀️ One of the partner is the Storyteller. Your role is to start by sharing more about how you spent the day. When you hear EXPAND, stay on the event you just mentioned and give details. Continue giving details until you hear ADVANCE, after which you move on to the next event of the day. Continue for 2 minutes.

🧟‍♀️ The other partner is the Listener. With the power to use only two keywords “Advance” and “Expand”. Say EXPAND to have the Storyteller share more details about what they just mentioned. Say ADVANCE to move ahead to the next event of the day.

🔀 Switch roles. Play daily or when needed. Increase time as you see fit.

This game has the most impact when you’ve spent the day away from each other. That makes sure the two stories shared are different and have more room to explore.

Listen to our example in the podcast episode using the links above OR check out the super cute reel on our Instagram account.

Takeaways

  1. Find a time-bound way to share about your day with your partner while sharing the responsibility of storytelling
  2. Find opportunities in your day to savor the small moments that can easily slip away
  3. Give your partner the control to be curious and learn more about your day – encouraging them to use the keyword Expand to dive into more details

Inspiration

Our activity was inspired by an Improv exercise, which is used to explore environments in more details. You can learn more about the Advance and Expand from this improwiki link.

Drawing while looking into your partners eyes for a fun and quick date night idea to build healthy relationships

Drawing while looking into your partners eyes for a fun and quick date night idea Love Vitamins for Life

A quick and easy date night idea to build a healthy relationship. Here’s what you need 1️⃣ 2 pieces of paper 2️⃣ 2 pens 3️⃣ 60 seconds with your partner All you have to do is look into your partners eyes and draw them. There are 2 simple rules ✍️ Draw a single continuous line without lifting the pen from the paper 👁️ Maintain eye contact for 60 seconds Our inspiration for the activity was from a Ted Talk given by Wendy MacNaughton – The art of paying attention. In an invitation to slow down and look at the world around you, the graphic journalist illustrates how drawing can spark deeply human, authentic connections. Ready to try? Grab a pencil and join MacNaughton for her delightful talk. "Drawing is looking, and looking is loving," she says. Link below 🔗 https://www.ted.com/talks/wendy_macnaughton_the_art_of_paying_attention LoVita – Love Vitamins for a healthier is a community by Partners for Partners. We share stories about how Partners are working intentionally toward building a healthier relationship. To learn more check out the links below 🔗 All below links in a single page  – https://linktr.ee/lovitalovevitamins Website – https://lovita.blog Newsletter – https://mailchi.mp/81f58463e76b/subscribe Instagram – https://www.instagram.com/lovitalovevitamins Facebook – https://www.facebook.com/lovitalovevitamins

Activity

All you have to do is look into your partners eyes and draw them.

Thing you need

1️⃣ 2 pieces of paper
2️⃣ 2 pens
3️⃣ 60 seconds with your partner

There are 2 simple rules

✍️ Draw a single continuous line without lifting the pen from the paper
👁️ Maintain eye contact for 60 seconds

Wanna see what we ended up drawing?

According to Research, the exposure or mere-exposure effect is a psychological artifact which states people express undue liking for things merely because they are familiar with them

Our Takeaways

  • Focus on looking into your partners eyes and pay attention to the details. The activity is trying to inspire intentionality and attention towards your partner in a shared experience.
  • It’s hard to maintain eye contact for that long but the mind keeps drifting away cause it loves to wander. The activity gives you an opportunity to look at each other and take a not of the details. This allows one to see specifics that you would not see otherwise.

Inspiration

Our inspiration for the activity was from a Ted Talk given by Wendy MacNaughton – The art of paying attention. In an invitation to slow down and look at the world around you, the graphic journalist illustrates how drawing can spark deeply human, authentic connections. Ready to try? Grab a pencil and join MacNaughton for her delightful talk. “Drawing is looking, and looking is loving,” she says.