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Cherish Time for Partners with Francesca and Stan Levine Love Vitamins for Relationships

In the first half of our conversation with them, we talk about what makes their relationship special and did a dive into love vs intimacy and much more. In this second part, we share how they demonstrated to use the exercise of Cherishment. Our next Framework of Cherish Time (which will be available in a couple days) is inspired from this beautiful exercise of using the 5 senses to express your love to your partner and build a more intimate and healthier relationship. Listen to the full episode to feel the love pouring out of them which they practice this wonderful exercise – there were some tears being shed in the background too. We tried our own version of Cherish Time and that'll be available on our Social Media Channels too. Follow us on Instagram to check it out. Takeaways Think about this – what advice would you give yourself for your relationship to make it more healthier? Let us know in the comments below. At LoVita, we're not in the business of giving advice, we're about inspiring partners of all kinds by sharing their stories and journey in building a healthier relationship. So if you're interested, we'd love to share yours too. —– If you enjoyed listening to this episode (or the podcast), please share your diagnosis with 1 close relationship or anyone else who would enjoy listening to this as well. If you would like to share your story, fill out this quick form. The best gift you can give us is positive feedback and your observations. Follow us wherever you are listening and do us a favor by adding a Review on Apple Podcast. LoVita – Love Vitamins for a healthier is a community by Partners for Partners. We share stories about how Partners are working intentionally towards building a healthier relationship. To learn more check out the links below 🔗 LoVita Blog⁠ for Frameworks Sign up for our monthly ⁠Newsletter⁠ for exclusive content We're also on Social media – ⁠Instagram⁠,⁠ Facebook⁠, All above links in a ⁠single page⁠ Connect with Francesca and Stan Levine Website: Facebook: relationshiprescueinstitute — Send in a voice message: Support this podcast:


Your partner has decided to make some significant changes in their lifestyle, and are determined to work out more regularly. You are very excited and want to help out any way you can. The next day, they come across an ad for a new peloton bike and end up making an impulse purchase.

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As the partner that’s receiving and watching this interaction unfold it is really easy to start pointing out that “you do this all the time, you start a new goal, a new trend or something like that. And then you just go out and you spend all this money. And a few months later, nothing actually has changed.” It’s very, very easy to launch into that kind of conversation, and have that kind of a reaction. Because your intentions are good, you don’t want to see your partner making the same mistakes again and again, and you do want to be supportive, you think by helping them see the error in their ways or correct them before they do something wrong, you’re going to be actually helping them succeed with this new goal or this new hobby. Now, while the intention is good, how we go about supporting someone is normally where our growth lies.

Brene Brown says “you cannot shame or belittle people into changing their behaviors.” So when your partner comes in, share something with you, even if it’s something as dramatic as a Peloton purchase to support this new goal that they have. In that moment, when they’re sharing with you, that’s a bid for connection. They’re filled with joy and excitement. And they’re trying to find a way to succeed with this new goal that they have. This isn’t the time for you to tell them that you’ve seen this pattern before, that you don’t understand why they had to buy something in order to be able to successful with this particular goal. It’s an important conversation to have, and you will make space for it. In this moment, what’s more important to do is to use the framework of Yes, And, their joy, and get curious about what their plan is to stick with their goal and how this Peloton purchase fits into it.

When we get curious, we learn more about what they are intending to do. And you’re gathering information for this conversation that you want to have a little bit later about how you feel about impulse purchases, especially when you’re starting out on a new goal or a new hobby. And the fact that you might be seeing a pattern repeating. So in the end, no matter how right, you might feel that this is something that you really want to point out and talk to your partner about the moment that someone shares something that is bringing them joy, all that’s important for you to do is to celebrate with your partner, and let them make their own choices, which includes sometimes what you might label as a mistake, and to show up with and to really show up to them having this experience without critiquing them first.