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Saying how you feel and asking for what you want with Kimberly Hill – Love Vitamins for Relationships

Saying what you feel and asking for what you want with your partners can often be very difficult. But why is that? And even when you gather the courage and patience to do so, they still don't understand. Kimberly shares that this is common, "What seems to be one of the most difficult conversations for a man and or woman to have in their relationship or in dating is saying how we feel and communicating when we have a need." Activity to get better at communicating with your partner This is an exercise to help you fill in what you are feeling and what you really need. -> Get a pen and paper and write the below down ___<Their_Name>___, I feel _________. Because _________. I would like it if you would __________. I hope you understand that __________. To learn more about how this works, listen to the full episode. Takeaways 1️⃣ Make sure before having a conversation with your partner, they are in the present and free of distractions 2️⃣ When addressing an issue, focus on the behavior. Rather than blaming or pointing at your partner, find the behavior that is causing this conversation to happen. 3️⃣ Ask for what you want, rather than what you don't want. After sharing your feelings on how you feel, go that extra step further to suggest a solution. —- If you enjoyed listening to this episode (or the podcast), please share your diagnosis with 1 close relationship or anyone else who would enjoy listening to this as well. If you would like to share your story, fill out this quick form. The best gift you can give us is positive feedback and your observations. Follow us wherever you are listening and do us a favor by adding a Review on Apple Podcast. LoVita – Love Vitamins for a healthier is a community by Partners for Partners. We share stories about how Partners are working intentionally towards building a healthier relationship. To learn more check out the links below 🔗 LoVita Blog for Frameworks Sign up for our monthly Newsletter for exclusive content We're also on Social media – Instagram, Facebook, All above links in a single page Connect with Kimberly Hill Website: http://www.kimberlyninahill.com Instagram: @kimberlyninahill Podcast: The Self Confidence Project — Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/lovitalovevitamins/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/lovitalovevitamins/support

Kimberly is a Certified Dating & Relationship Coach and a Master Neurolinguistic Practitioner who supports men to attract and keep healthy, loving relationships. She is the host of the honest and relatable podcast, The Self-Confidence Project where she talks candidly about the stuff we all face in life and love. She has thousands of hours of direct intimate work with men on confidence, dating, and relationships and brings a mastery of coaching, emotional maturity practices, and leadership to her clients. Her clients go on to find fulfilling and deeply rewarding relationships.

Saying what you feel and asking for what you want with your partners can often feel can be very difficult. But why is that? And even when you gather the courage and patience to do so, they still don’t understand. Kimberly shares that this is common, “What seems to be one of the most difficult conversations for a man and or woman to have in their relationship or in dating is saying how we feel and communicating when we have a need.”

Activity to get better at communicating with your partner

This is an exercise to help you fill in what you are feeling and what you really need.

-> Get a pen and paper and write the below down

___<Their_Name>___,
I feel _________.
Because _________.
I would like it if you would __________.
I hope you understand that __________.

To learn more about how this works, listen to the full episode.

Takeaways

1️⃣ Make sure before having a conversation with your partner, they are in the present and free of distractions

2️⃣ When addressing an issue, focus on the behavior. Rather than blaming or pointing at your partner, find the behavior that is causing this conversation to happen.

3️⃣ Ask for what you want, rather than what you don’t want. After sharing your feelings on how you feel, go that extra step further to suggest a solution.