The ESD (Emotional Status Dashboard) with Raashi and Ansh – Love Vitamins for Relationships
A special episode this week to talk in depth with examples about our most recently published framework, the ESD (Emotional Status Dashboard). Read more to about the framework to learn the concept and the reason behind it.
The ESD (Emotional Status Dashboard) has the below 4 major components
1️⃣ Identifying your emotion – reflect about the emotions being triggered and find a way to keep your partner in the loop
2️⃣ Nonverbal communication – to loop your partner in without the burden of sharing the details
3️⃣ Involving your partner – Don’t keep them in the dark and have them wondering what’s going on. If you don’t fill in the context for them, their mind will. They can’t read your mind.
4️⃣ Process the emotion – After digging deep into the triggers yourself, have a conversation with your partner to discuss it.
Partners – hold the space for each other while the other goes through the cycle of the ESD.
Say “I am angry” instead of “you did something to make me angry”. It is the individual’s responsibility to understand and manage their own emotions. Even though your partner’s actions might have triggered the emotions in you, it is not their fault.
We use the ESD (Emotional Status Dashboard) as a way to identify the emotion being triggered, share it with our partner and then hold a space to move forward with it without being defensive or assigning blame.
How do you communicate with your partners when emotions get heightened? Do you have a framework or a process where you are intentional to build a healthier relationship? Or do you just “wing it”? Let us know in the comments below.
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